How to Forgive Yourself When You Make a Mistake

If a friend tells you about a mistake they made or a hardship they’re facing, how do you typically respond? You probably offer compassion and comfort. How do you act towards yourself when you make a big mistake? Are you tougher — jumping to self-criticism, obsessing about your perceived shortcomings, or hiding in embarrassment? The next time you have a mishap, take a self-compassion break. As soon as you realize you're upset or stressed, pinpoint where the emotional discomfort is in your body. Where can you feel it the most? Then, acknowledge to yourself, "This is hard" or "Other people feel this way, too." Think about what you would say to a close friend struggling with the same issue. Say something similar to yourself, showing the same kindness.